Friday’s tragedy in Connecticut hit like ice in the heart, and there has been so much and so little to say about it. That afternoon, after I hit my saturation point with the TV, the Facebook feed, and phone calls and texts, I sought refuge in nature. I walked around Lake Washington, struck by the beauty all around me, juxtaposed against the horror still unfolding across the country.
How do we even begin to respond to such an event; one that brings up questions of the massive gaps in our culture that would make such a thing possible? Each of us has our own response, and each one is as it must be for each of us – no right or wrong. In my circle I heard in women an anguished need to grieve together and speak our hearts’ minds – to have a conversation. I agreed to hold the space.
There are many conversations to have in light of last week’s events, and the conversation I need to have isn’t about gun control or mental health, although are both worthy and necessary discussions to be having. The conversation I need to have is about how we can help to heal the wounded Masculine that mires men in the culture of “Real men don’t cry/feel/talk/ask for help/________.” It is a major breakdown for our men and boys and, ultimately, for our entire culture. The conversation I need to have is about how we as a culture can open the way for men and boys to reclaim their innate wholeness, choose vulnerability over got-it-all-togetherness, choose connection over isolation, choose true inner strength over brute force (inner and outer).
So I’m hosting a live tele-circle on the subject, from 9:00-10:30am PST this coming Thursday Dec 20th; an open forum to ask the questions we need to ask and to begin the conversation on where we go from here. I have no pat answers, only questions and a burning desire to know how we move forward from here in making room for the wholeness of our men to be welcomed and expressed.
I’ll be joined by Pixie Campbell, a wisewoman who has created vital healing space for women reclaiming the Divine Feminine through her SouLodge courses; and Hannah Marcotti, life coach and advocate for the needs of the Highly Sensitive Person. We are just three of many, many women who see our men and boys in pain, and want to learn how we can lead the way and hold the space for their healing and return to wholeness. We’ll be joined by David Tejeda, a Seattle-based healer and health coach who is committed to healing the wounded Masculine and restoring the balance of Divine Masculine and Feminine side-by-side. I want to hear his voice as a man who has been able to step outside of the Wounded Masculine Matrix and who can see what’s happening and what needs to happen, and what men need from us women in order to make this transition.
Details:Healing the Wounded Masculine: An Open Inquiry in Response to Newtown Date: Thursday, December 20, 2013 Time: 9:00-10:30am PST Phone number: 805.399.1000 Code: 186916# This call will be recorded and available within 24 hours for playback. Nothing will be promoted. The call is for questions and discussion related to the subject only.
Please join us if you feel called. For now, I light candles and send up prayers of…I don’t even know.
Prayers of deepest sympathy to the families who lost loved ones.
Prayers of peace for the community in anguish.
Prayers of hope that we can all heal.
Missed the call? Listen to the recording here!
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